27, 2012 january
Of all of the maladies that afflict our relationships, commitment-phobia, or perhaps the anxiety about dedication is certainly one that regularly wreaks havoc on our capability to have healthier unions. The reason why cited for why men donвЂ™t commit are just just what weвЂ™ve (cue Sunshine Anderson) вЂњheard it all beforeвЂќ:
вЂњI just would like to get married onceвЂ¦I donвЂ™t like to make a blunder.вЂќ
вЂњIвЂ™m too dedicated to my profession now to also consider the next step.вЂќ
вЂњWhy you gotta rock the motorboat? Things are good between usвЂ¦canвЂ™t you leave good enough alone?вЂќ
You can find a million variants of this theme track, but in the root there was one emotion that is basic fear.
Individuals choose to blame our low wedding prices on socioeconomic facets including the large number of incarcerated Ebony males or perhaps the disparity that is educational Ebony people. But could the reason that is real more emotionally driven? Them to settle down when I speak to many of my male friends, from where theyвЂ™re sitting, there is absolutely no real incentive for. Most have told me that apart from their need to raise their kids in a two-parent house, there’s no genuine upside to placing your self able to lose 50 % of your hard earned cash in case your wedding ends (which based on the census has at the very least a 50% likelihood of taking place). As well as that, once the prevalence of single parent houses headed by Ebony ladies shows, is not sufficient to have a guy to leap the broom. Continue reading “Disappearing Acts: in the Mind of the Relationship Magician”